Today I became officially divorced. In January 2007 I was firmly stuck between a rock and a hard place and was left with no real alternative but to divorce my wife because of her unreasonable behaviour. I will not say any more than that because of my three beautiful children, who have already heard things from so-called friends of my ex-wife and from the children of so-called friends of my ex, things that they simply should not have heard or been teased about.
Anger is like holding on to a burning hot coal with the intention of throwing it at someone else, it's the holder that gets hurt more.
I can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do, sometimes I wish I could, but if I were to be granted one wish, the ability to make someone do something, I would make my ex-wife not only realise that she can drop all the emotional crap she has been carrying for at least a dozen years before she met me, but actually make her drop all the anger and hatred that she holds close in her heart. I would not only make her realise that she could live her life with love, joy and happiness in her heart, but actually make her do it.
As much as I should hate her, I simply don't. She will always be the mother of my children and the happier she is, the happier my children are. I forgive her behaviour, words and actions completely. I wish her all the love, joy and happiness in the world. The problem is, she hasn't got the courage or belief in herself to receive it.
Normal service has been resumed.
Be happy,
Dave.
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