Willpower is not designed for long term change, willpower is like mental adrenalin. When your hand flings your sheet or quilt in the air and you force yourself out of bed, when you walk out in to the rain even when you don’t really want to and when you do the washing up only when you absolutely have to, that is your willpower at work.
So how can willpower be increased? I don’t believe it can be, I believe that our belief system finds the suggestions more acceptable rather than our willpower becoming stronger. Let me explain.
Between our conscious mind and subconscious mind sits our “critical factor”, I’m not going to go in to its full role here and now but I would like you to consider that your critical factor is like a doorman or bouncer and works for your subconscious mind. When the thought, positive thinking, suggestion or willpower request approaches our critical factor, like any good doorman it checks to see if that thought or suggestion is on the guest list, in other words is the thought or suggestion acceptable to our subconscious mind and can it come in?
Let’s consider smokers. “I want to stop smoking” says the conscious thought. If the belief system of that person doesn’t believe that they want or can be a non-smoker, then that suggestion is rejected regardless of whether it was created by willpower, positive thinking or any other conscious method. The conscious thought does not match the subconscious belief.
“I want to stop smoking” thinks someone else. If that person is a recreational smoker or believes that they are in charge of cigarettes, the thought or suggestion “I want to stop smoking” becomes acceptable, its name is on the guest list and in it comes. This is why some people only smoke at weekends; their belief system is totally different than that of a so called “addicted” or “habitual” smoker.
So rather than our willpower being increased, I believe that positive changes occur much more easily by changing or modifying our belief system, and the quickest and easiest way to do this is with hypnotherapy.
If you feel stuck trying to make changes in your life whether it is to stop smoking, lose weight, get up earlier, change jobs, improve your current job, get motivated to go to the gym, if you feel like there is a block to anything that you want to achieve or if you feel you are not living your life to your full potential, please feel free to give me a call on 01923 243 500 to discuss how I may be able to help you.
Be happy,
Dave.
