Kerry Katona has recently admitted that she is an alcoholic. Apparently, she was "diagnosed" as an alcoholic four years ago after her marriage break-up.
She said "I have never admitted to this before and I know it is a battle I will have to face for the rest of my life."
Why is it a battle that she will have to face for the rest of her life? I once ate a worm as a child but I don't consider myself a worm eater and spend every waking moment telling myself not to eat worms. The vast majority of people on this planet don't need, want or choose to drink alcohol first thing in the morning and throughout their day. Anyone who believes that they face a battle every day to not drink alcohol, smoke cigarettes or take recreational drugs is simply empowering the dried plant leaves, powder or chemicals mixed with water and colourants because that is all they are.
By stating that it is a lifelong battle, Kerry is blaming the alcohol for her problem rather than taking responsibility for herself and her own actions.
This "passing the buck" continues with "I can never promise myself or my family that I can beat this addiction but I will try very hard".
There is no such thing as an addiction, it is a habit, a choice, that she drinks or takes drugs. By stating that she can "never promise" she is really saying that she can't be bothered to take responsibility for herself or her actions. By saying that she will "try very hard" she is justifying her continued abuse of alcohol or drugs because she can always use her "get out of jail free card" which is "at least I'm trying". Don't "try" and stop drinking, do it or don't do it, don't "try" not to take recreational drugs, take them or don't take them.
It appears that she is getting a massive amount of sympathy (secondary gains) from her current viewpoint and it is my opinion that someone needs to tell her to grow up and take responsibility for herself.
I do not doubt for one moment that her "depression" has a part to play in her current actions. I run a five session programme to help people overcome drug habits or alcohol habits and the first part of it is helping people realise the subconscious reasons for their behaviour. In virtually every case, drugs or alcohol are used to numb pain or emotions from the past. Once those unhelpful beliefs have been identified and released it becomes so much easier to just decide not to drink or take drugs, that it really is a simple choice.
I would not take on any person who wants me to guarantee that I will make them stop their behaviour (not taking responsibility for themselves) or who clearly is not ready to put their hands up and take full responsibility for themselves.
The "how" and "why" to help it happen is down to me, all I ask from anyone who wants to stop distracting themselves from the real issue by taking drugs or alcohol is that they take responsibility for their own actions. Kerry Katona is a million miles away from that point at the moment, which is a shame, but so are many other people out there who constantly blame everyone and everything for their bad luck, when perhaps they should be looking at themselves. The only time we can make positive changes in our lives is when we take responsibility for ourselves, for all of our good or bad thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
If you or someone you know would like help to free themselves from unwanted drink or drug habits, please give me a call on 01923 243 500.
Be happy,
Dave.
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